What is true love?

Are you in love or just infatuation? Adolescents nowadays are different than before, they don't even consider if they are really in love or just an infatuation.  They just wake up one day that they don't love their girlfriend or boyfriend anymore.  The sad thing was they already have love child that will suffer the failure of their unsure love.  That's the reason why there are many single mothers out there. 

What is really true love?  Is being attracted to opposite sex already love or just infatuation?  Let me define infatuation from the dictionary, Infatuation means an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone,  or can be defined as people thinking they are in love but when indeed it is just a lust or like for another person.  What about love? Love is also an intense feeling or deep affection to someone. It is really very hard to distinguish between the two because both are intense feelings which we don't know when to last.

So what are the things that adolescents should do to determine true love?

- Long courtship.  Long courtship will enable both the man and woman to know each other, if they can endure the bad attitudes of their partner and can adjust, then they have future together.  If they don't, their relationship will not last forever.  But not long courtship will lead to successful couple, sometimes they hide their true colors in courting years.  Just be true to who you are, don't hide something so you can decide if you will pursue to marrying your partner or not.  The best thing is to communicate each other, tell your partner to be honest of who they are.  In the first place its your future that is being consider.

-Examine your feelings.  You have to examine your feelings when you are together and away.  Do you miss your girlfriend or boyfriend while away or just okay even without them?  Can you leave without them or not?  While you are together, do you enjoy your company, or you wanted him/her to go home as soon as possible.  If you are in the affirmative side that's an indication of true love.

-Know if he/she loves you because he/she needs you or he/she needs you because he/she loves you.  Do you love your girlfriend because she can teach you your assignment?  Do you love your boyfriend because you are always free with snacks? What about if your girlfriend will no longer teach you your assignment or your boyfriend can no longer free you from snacks? Is love still there without those things which you are expecting to be given to you by your partner?  Now from there you can already conclude if your love is really true love.  

I just would like you to know teenagers that indulging into a relationship is not just a joke.  Both have their responsibilities to give.  Once you cannot give the best to your partner then don't go into  a relationship, you are just hurting someone. The most successful tool in a relationship is TRUST.